Tag: presidential election

What happens if your presidential candidate doesn’t win?

Today is the big day! Election Day 2024. Today, one way or the other, the political ads will be over, and we can finally get back to more important commercials about beer, incontinence, and the fancy new weight loss drugs.

If you pay attention to the political ads and news coverage you may believe that the outcome of the election will mark the end of days if it doesn’t go your way. The messages from the candidates’ campaigns are ominous. They all paint a stark win or lose, do or die, fail or thrive future. It is as if our very existence rests on the outcome of this election.

But none of that is true. Whatever happens, we will be fine. We can and will survive anything that comes our way. We have endured the Civil War, The Great Depression, and the Disco era. We have faced the oil crisis, the mortgage crisis, the COVID-19 pandemic and the toilet paper crisis. They all did their best to sink us. But America is the Molly Brown of countries.

I have voted in every presidential election since I turned 18. I carefully studied the candidates and how their beliefs aligned with mine. I looked at how their policies would impact my personal freedoms and finances. I considered how they would act to help others in my community and country. I evaluated how the candidates would affect our relationships with other countries and world peace. Then I carefully voted for what I believed to be the best candidate. Just like a good American should.

However, the candidate I voted for has only won half of the elections. Which means that, in theory, the person who wanted the opposite of what I wanted won the other half of the contests. Yet, ob-la-di, ob-la-da, life has gone on.

It is easy to get caught up in the hype and extremism of a political election and think that there are clear winning and losing scenarios for the masses. But history would indicate otherwise. You will naturally lose roughly half the elections you vote in. And when you lose, America will still be full of moms, baseball and apple pie. And you can still share all of those things on Facebook, Instagram and Tik Tok. Plus, you will still get to vote again in 4 years. And the pendulum always swings. Like Benny Goodman. And the Squirrel Nut Zippers.

So today as the last of us vote, and tonight as you watch the results come rolling in, remember, it will all be okay. There is more than one way to lead our country. There are pros and cons to each style, and each belief system. It’s why roughly half the country agrees with your thinking and half the country doesn’t understand you.

I respect that political positioning forces the campaigns to market the candidates ideas and ideals as diametrically opposed. But at the end of the day, both sides want to continue developing a great America. They just have different ways of going about it. Which means they are focused on pulling different levers, and pushing different buttons on the Wonkivator to get the machine to perform at its best.

America is a great country. Because it was founded by rebellious people who believed there was a better way of countrying. And America has attracted great and rebellious people ever since (think David Bowie and Billy Idol) who have continued to bring new and better ways of countrying.

Sure, we have unsolved problems. And we always will. Because life is one long problem solving adventure. We will continue to work towards better approaches to equality, security, safety, prosperity, health and peace. We just have different beliefs in how it is done. Neither approach is 100% right. And neither approach is 100% wrong. There ain’t no good guy. There ain’t no bad guy. There’s only Americans, and we just disagree. But that’s ultimately what makes the system work.

Key Takeaway

Things are going to be okay. There will be a lot of drama beginning tonight. It may last for months. But we will all be okay. Both candidates approaches generally work. We will continue to improve our country, our security and our economy no matter who is in the White House. Because ultimately, it all comes down to what we the people do.

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+For more of the best life lessons I have learned check out my book, What Does Your Fortune Cookie Say? from Ripples Media.

Don’t waste a near-death experience.

By now we have all seen the assassination attempt on Donald Trump. As an optimist, I am hopeful that some very good things will come out of this very bad event. I hope it provides a perspective-altering experience for Trump, for politicians, for speech writers and for the American people.

There are simple facts about divisiveness. If you divide severely, make fun of people, belittle and laugh at people, or treat people as if they are dumb, or incompetent, you will eventually find a breaking point. We saw that clearly in the movie Billy Madison when we discovered that Steve Buscemi’s character Danny, who was bullied by Billy in school, had created a list of people to kill, which included Billy Madison.

Danny (Steve Buscemi) crosses Billy Madison’s name off of his list of people to kill after Billy apologizes for how he treated Danny in school. Then Danny put on some lipstick in a very strange and memorable ending to this scene.

I am hopeful that the assassination attempt has triggered a reset. I hope this serves as a reminder that there are limits to how far we can push. (Unless you are Salt n’ Peppa, who push it real good.) I hope that we start to realize that it is better to share your own positive plans and visions than it is to tear other people, parties and ideologies down.

I hope this serves as a reminder that the most powerful people in the world should be cautious about labeling others as threats to democracy. Because it has a very real chance of inciting others to take up arms to put down that threat in the name of preserving our great democracy.

The Gift of The Close Call

I have had some close calls in my life with what could have been very bad outcomes. We probably all have. For me, each of those situations served as an inflection point. I was different after the experiences than I was before. I had a better sense of the boundaries of safety. I developed a better understanding of cause and effect. I realized how lucky I was to be given more time and more chances to get things right. Which is the basic theme of 50% of country songs.

When you are faced with an abrupt ending, it shines a spotlight on how you want to spend your second chance. It forces you to reevaluate and recalibrate. And it makes you think about your legacy, and what people will say about you after you are gone. Which is the basic storyline of 50% of the movies made in Hollywood. That’s why there is that moment at the end of Home Alone when Buzz tells Kevin, ‘It’s pretty cool that you didn’t burn the place down.’

If someone shot at me it would force some self-reflection. I would question my words and my actions. I would recognize that I may be pushing people too far. And that I may not be exhibiting the kind of empathy and compassion that would have kept me out of the very real crosshairs. I am hopeful that this event has forced some valuable soul-searching, eye-opening, and dare I say, ear-opening that will lead to better actions by everyone involved.

Key Takeaway

Don’t waste a second chance. When you are faced with a premature ending to anything, let it be a positive force in your life that helps you rewrite a better ending. These moments are gifts. But you have to be ready to receive them. If you do, these experiences have the potential to help you change your life for the better, if not the course of history.

*If you know someone who could benefit from this message, please share it with them.

+For more of the best life lessons I have learned check out my book, What Does Your Fortune Cookie Say? from Ripples Media.

What happens if your candidate doesn’t win?

Today is the big day! Election Day 2020. Today, one way or the other, the political ads will be over, and we can finally get back to more important commercials about beer, incontinence, and flex tape.

If you pay attention to the political ads you may believe that the outcome of the election will mark the end of days if it doesn’t go your way. The messages from the candidates’ campaigns are ominous. They all paint a stark win or lose, do or die, fail or thrive future. It is as if our very existence rests on the outcome of this election.

But none of that is true. Whatever happens, we will be fine. We can and will survive anything that comes our way. We have endured the Civil War, The Great Depression, and the Disco era. They all did their best to sink us. But America is the Molly Brown of countries.

I have voted in every presidential election since I turned 18. I carefully studied the candidates and how their beliefs aligned with mine. I looked at how their policies would impact me financially and how they would act to help others in my community and country. I always asked myself, would they have sexual relations with that woman, Miss Lewinsky? Then I carefully voted for what I believed to be the best candidate. Just like a good American should.

However, the candidate I voted for has only won half of the elections. Which means that, in theory, the person who wanted the opposite of what I wanted won the other half of the contests. Yet, ob-la-di, ob-la-da, life has gone on.

It is easy to get caught up in the hype and extremism of a political election and think that there are clear winning and losing scenarios for the masses. But history would indicated otherwise. You will naturally lose roughly half the elections you vote in. And when you lose America will still be full of moms, baseball and apple pie. And you can still share all of those things on Facebook. Plus, you will still get to vote again in 4 years. And the pendulum always swings. Like Benny Goodman.

So today as the last of us vote, and tonight as you watch the results come rolling in, remember, it will all be ok. There is more than one way to lead our country. There are pros and cons to each style, and each belief system. It’s why roughly half the country agrees with your thinking and half the country doesn’t understand you.

I respect that political positioning forces the campaigns to market the candidates ideas and ideals as diametrically opposed. But at the end of the day, both sides want to continue developing a great America. They just have different ways of going about it. Which means they are focused on pulling different levers, and pushing different buttons on the Wonkivator to get the machine to perform its best.

America is a great country. Because it was founded by rebellious people who believed there was a better way of country-ing. And America has attracted great and rebellious people ever since (think David Bowie and Billy Idol) who have continued to bring new and better ways of country-ing.

Sure, we have unsolved problems. And we always will. Because life is one long problem solving adventure. We will continue to work towards better approaches to equality, security, safety, prosperity, health and peace. We just have different beliefs in how it is done. Neither approach is 100% right. And neither approach is 100% wrong. There ain’t no good guy. There ain’t no bad guy. There’s only Americans, and we just disagree. But that’s ultimately what makes the system work.

Key Takeaway

Things are going to be okay. There will be a lot of drama beginning tonight. It may last for months. But we will all be okay. Both candidates approaches generally work. We will find a vaccine for Covid-19. We will continue to improve our country and our economy no matter who is in the White House. Because ultimately, it all comes down to what we the people do.

If you like pro-American, independent thinking you may also like Why today is such a big F-ing day.