Yesterday I had lunch with people I hadn’t seen in over 20 years.

Social distancing is really odd. Suddenly we don’t see the people we are used to seeing every day. This includes co-workers, that dude or dudette at the coffee shop with the tattoos and the people at the gym, with the tattoos. (Okay, maybe I just miss tattoos right now, because my kids don’t have any. Yet.)

Right now we don’t see the people we regularly run into at school or practice or the movie theater. And we’re quietly hoping those people haven’t been voted off the island by the coronavirus.

Please enjoy this flashback while you miss the people in your neighborhood

My Lunch Bunch

Yesterday I found a replacement for the people that I regularly see in my neighborhood. In fact, yesterday I had lunch with 16 of my college track teammates from the University of Wisconsin. While it would have been great to gather at Mickies Dairy Bar, The Memorial Union Terrace, or State Street Brats, none of those places would have let us in yesterday because of the corona-cooties

Instead, we gathered over the lunch hour, via Zoom, from our home offices, kitchens and couches. We gathered from a hospital and from an Olympic Training Center.

And it was amazing.

We gathered from Minneapolis, Milwaukee, Madison, Chicago, Atlanta, Ft. Lauderdale, Green Bay, Omaha, Denver, San Diego, Houston and Phoenix. Some of these people I hadn’t seen or spoken to in over 20 years.

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This answers Aretha Franklin’s question, ‘Who’s Zooming Who?’

Badger Brothers

This group of guys has a very special relationship. We trained, suffered, traveled, competed, studied and partied together throughout our college experience in Madison. We learned how to succeed as a team. We won multiple Big Ten Championships as a team. And our head coach, Ed ‘Nutty’ Nuttycombe won more Big 10 championships than any coach in any sport in Big 10 history. Which makes us feel as if we are part of a legacy. Better yet, we all have funny Nutty stories to share. #tripletnieces

Nutty Said

Coach Nutty used to say, ‘It feels good to feel good.’ And yesterday if felt good to tap into the strong bond we still share during this challenging and isolating time. Our hour together reminded us that we are not alone. That we have brothers across the country to lean on, laugh with and learn from as we all go through this strange time together.

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Thank You

Thanks to Matt Downin, Louis Hinshaw, Tom Burger, Tony Simmons, Brian Veit, Jabari Pride, Bryan Jones, Matt Vander Zanden, David Sengstock, Jason Vanderhoof, Jeremy Fischer, Scott Brinen, Kevin Huntley, Scott Sullivan, and John Christensen for making the time to get together. I look forward to more. Because we are better together. Just like Coach Nutty, Coach Napes, and Coach Smith taught us. And we have the rings to prove it.

Key Takeaway

I encourage you to take advantage of this unique time to find and reconnect with your people. It only takes one person to get a video meetup started. So be that person. Channel your inner James Taylor, and let your people know that even in this time of social distancing and self-isolation, they’ve got a friend.

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My Badger Brothers.  Back before color photography.

Now, it’s just a matter of time.

Over the past weeks there has been a lot of talk about time. Government, school and business leaders have thrown out dates and durations to add definitiveness to the end of the coronavirus pandemic. But you don’t have to be a geologist to know that those dates are written in sand, not stone.

Why All The Time Passages?

People want answers, and certainty. Businesses want to count up all their cash, and divide it by the number of days of downtime to determine if they can make it to re-opening day. Parents want to know if this is a spring break thing, a summer break thing, or both. And God help us all if this is both. #ScreenTimeLobotomy Speaking of God, my church has cancelled all congregating until after Easter. Which is like 40 days and 40 nights.

The Truth

Right now, there is a very simple truth worth embracing: The timeline is unknowable. 

No one can predict how this will play out with certainty. Not Dr. Fauci, Dr. Oz, Dr. Seuss or Dr. Pepper. President Trump, Joe Biden and Weekend-At-My-Place Sanders don’t know. And as much as you, me and Bobby McGee want to know, we can’t.

I’m Good With That

I take great comfort in the fact that nobody knows the real timeline, for 2 reasons.

1. It is a reminder that much of this is up to us.

We, the people, are the great variable in the timeline. Our actions make all the difference right now. Our hand washing and our social distancing may seem trivial. But they are the grenades and the sniper rifles in the battle against COVID-19.

2. This could be much shorter than we are hearing. 

The timeline has become sensationalized. 9-months! 18-months! 2-years! Forever 21! (Wait, that last one is just a sign I saw at the mall.) Sure, these could be true. But remember, those who profit from fear and attention during a crisis are incentivized to make the situation even crisis-ier. #followthemoney

Have Faith

Have faith right now that this will get better sooner than later. Have faith in our medical professionals who are working hard to protect us all. Have faith in our scientists who are quickly learning, applying their knowledge, and blinding me with science.

Have faith in our political leaders who are learning from the good, the bad and the ugly around the world in order to create the recipe for success in your community. And have faith that God helps those who help themselves. Especially those who help themselves to generous amounts of hand soap and the sweet spot on the living room couch.

Key Takeaway

The duration of the Global Timeout is unknowable. Do your part, and this will be better faster. We’re all in this together. And we can get out of this sooner, together. A little patience and perspective go a long way right now. Take a deep breath. Take advantage of your time to think, and enjoy the quality time at home. Support those supporting the rest of us. And like Mickey said, we’ll see each other real soon.

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