Imagine your life as one long continuous recording. As Mo Gawdat notes in his book Solving For Happy, at our core, we are the observers of our lives. Your 5 senses record your life, from beginning to end. At any point, pre-Alzheimer’s, you can replay a part of it again. This is what you are doing when you tap into your memory. You are rewinding, and watching the game film of your life.
Watch Your Wins
What you decide to replay for yourself makes all the difference. Replaying past successes is good for you. It reinforces how capable you are. It reminds you how you win at life. It builds confidence, determination and a positive outlook. It reminds you that you are good enough, you are smart enough, and doggone it, people like you.
Watch Your Failures Once
Don’t make a habit of watching your failures over and over. Your failures, shortcomings and mistakes should only be watched once. This allows you to study the game film, see where the mistake was made, learn, and correct the behavior. After you have learned the lesson, let your failures go. They are done.
Create Your Personal Highlight Reel
How you view your life, and thus how you view yourself, is a result of which game film you choose to watch. Rewatch the good parts often. They will become your personal highlight reel. And just like your favorite movie quotes, those memories will be quickly accessible anytime you need them. So you’ve got that going for you. Which is nice. #NameThatFilm
My Highlight Reel
When I watch game film of my life here are some of the go-to moments I go to often:
• Tests that I scored 100% on. It reminds me I am a good learner
• Breaking the state record in the discus in high school, 8 months after having my ACL reconstructed. It reminds me of the power of my determination.
• Winning a new business pitch after a client told me I had no chance. It reminds me I can win, even when the odds are stacked against me.
• Founding The Weaponry, my advertising and idea agency, with $16,000, and growing it to a multi-million dollar business. It reminds me to take risks.
• Meeting my wife Dawn It reminds me of my good luck.
• Vacation adventures with Dawn and our 3 kids. It reminds me of how fun life can be.
• Seeing a map of the 120+ countries where my blog has been read around the world. It reminds me to keep writing.
• The positive notes from people who heard me speak or give a presentation. It reminds me that my messages have value to others.
• The time I made a joke and someone laughed. It reminds me that it could happen again.
Binge Watch Your Best
To live a great life is to watch the good parts over and over. Remind yourself of your strengths, great performances and wins. Remember your positive interactions, collaborations, friendships and love, and you are sure to see more of it in your future.
We all have successes and failures. When you rewind your life, watch your failures once, to learn. Replay your successes often. Remind yourself you are a winner. You are smart, kind, and brave. Always focus on your good film. It will increase your happiness, and lead to more good film to watch.
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