Category: Life

26 Rules For A Great 2026

As I start each year, I like to take a moment to remind myself what leads to a great year and ultimately a great life. Here are some of the most important rules I live by, in a particular order. I hope you find some value in them, too. If not, I encourage you to create your own list and share it with me. God knows I can use all the help I can get.

26 Rules For How To Have A Great 2026.

  1. Nothing works if you don’t. Success is a result of action.
  2. Your habits are your most important asset. You form your habits and then your habits form you.
  3. Add value before you try to extract value. Never forget the order of operations. Your value is directly related to your contribution.
  4. Your best energy is early in the day. Do the big stuff in the morning. But not the Double Stuf. Save that for dessert.
  5. In the end, the only thing that matters is the impact we have on each other. Put people first, and be a positive force in their lives. This is how you get people to show up at your funeral. (This and the all-you-can-eat ham sandwiches.)
  6. Don’t be a jerk. We have enough of them. People need allies and compassion. Not jerkitude.
  7. Get good sleep. Know your ideal amount of sleep and get it as often as you can. Sleep is nature’s power-up.
  8. This too shall pass. Even the really tough stuff will soon be in the rear-view mirror. Just keep swimming.
  9. Exercise is the best medicine. It’s better than an apple at keeping the doctor away. (But speaking of doctors…)
  10. See your doctor and dentist every year. Your scans, blood tests, ograms, and oscopies help find things when they are small and treatable. This can add years or even decades to your life. Do it for your loved ones.
  11. Do hard things. Nothing is better for building confidence and a repertoire of great stories.
  12. Always do what you know is right. This rule has never failed me. Listen to your inner voice. It knows what to do.
  13. When you are right, don’t act in a way that makes you have to apologize.
  14. Invest as much and as early as you can. Let compound interest work its magic, Johnson.
  15. Don’t put your hands in your pockets as you walk up or down stairs. If you trip, you’re going to need those hands to protect your face from the floor.
  16. Travel as much as you can. It provides knowledge, experience, understanding, stories and ideas that last a lifetime. When you are old and can no longer travel, you can always go back in your mind.
  17. Put a case and a screen protector on your phone. It will save you a lot of money.
  18. Burn more calories every day than you take in. That’s the simple formula to maintain a healthy weight.
  19. Don’t worry about how much milk you spill as long as you don’t lose your cow. There will be unfortunate things that cost you money. It’s ok. Just make sure to hold onto the thing that helps you make more money, honey.
  20. A happy marriage is the best thing in the world. I expect the opposite is also true. Prioritize your spouse. Even above your kids. It sets a great example for them.
  21. Reading books is like weight lifting for your brain. Read as much as you can. If you need to you can always buy a bigger hat.
  22. Don’t stick your tongue out when you are in a moving car. Because if you are in an accident, you will bite your tongue off.
  23. Think long term. Don’t try to make or save money today that will cost you money over the years to come.
  24. Take the red eye home from the West Coast. It’s like stealing time.
  25. Spend time with your people in real life. People are better in person. It’s one of the best things you can do for your happiness and well-being.
  26. Capacity is a state of mind. You will do more when you believe you can do more.
  27. (Bonus) Yesterday is the most important day. What you did yesterday enables everything you can do today.

Key Takeaway

The best way to have a great year is to put your accumulated experiences and resulting wisdom to work for you. You’re wiser than you were a year ago. Take advantage of it. Let’s have a great 2026! I hope we get to see each other in real life!

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+For more of the best life lessons I have learned check out my book, What Does Your Fortune Cookie Say? from Ripples Media. And consider subscribing to Adam’s Good Newsletter.

How I Use An Annual Self-Evaluation As A Guide to Personal Growth.

I just had another birthday. Which I think is great. But it is easy to not think your birthday is great. When you are happy with your life, family, career, health and finances, birthdays can be enjoyable reminders that you are doing well. Because you are where you thought you would be at your stage of life. And not living in a van down by the river.

However, the opposite is also true. When you reach your birthday, but feel that you are not where you expected to be at your age, it can make you feel like you are behind the pace you set for yourself. And the farther off pace you feel you are, the more likely it is to affect your happiness.

A great exercise to do when you feel off pace is an honest self-evaluation. This helps you identify where you are feeling short of your expectations, which gives you an area to focus on for greater happiness and accomplishment.

The other benefit of the self-evaluation is that it often highlights all the things that are going well in your world. This can help you shift your focus from your shortcomings to your longcomings. (I don’t think I will use that parallel phrasing again.)

Despite the fact that I am feeling good about my life right now, I find the annual self-evaluation valuable. It serves as a reminder of the good in my life. And it highlights areas for growth and improvement and helps me prioritize experiences and actions that I identify as important. Remember, what is important to you is both highly personal and fluid. Like your blood, sweat and tears. So your list can change significantly from year to year. Just like your hairstyle or the style of your fashionable jeans.

So without any more color commentary, here’s Adam’s Annual Self-Evaluation 2025.

Doing Well

  • I am happy.
  • I smile a lot (Smiling’s my favorite.)
  • I am very happy in my marriage.
  • I have a good relationship with my 3 kids.
  • I enjoy my work.
  • I have seen my doctor and my dentist in the past year. (And I play Doctor My Eyes by Jackson Browne as my appointment walkup music.)
  • My health labs and screenings are all up to date and in the right zones.
  • I continue to both develop and maintain good relationships .
  • I seek out a lot of knowledge and self-improvement.
  • I believe in myself (Someone has to.)
  • I gather people (Kinda like Noah, but without the ark and the imminent doom.)
  • I read dozens of books each year.
  • I talk to my parents regularly.
  • I believe in my ability to improve.
  • I exercise regularly.
  • I feel strong for my advanced age.
  • I have relatively good endurance. (but not for long boring meetings)
  • I don’t drink or do drugs. (But I understand why others do. #raisingteenagers)
  • I have hobbies and activities I enjoy.
  • I have added to my investments in the past year.
  • I vote regularly. (Typically for Pedro)
  • I travel regularly.
  • The Weaponry is healthy with a great outlook.
  • My speaking opportunities are exciting.
  • I have prioritized my annual guys trip for several years now, making it a real thing.
  • I typically get good sleep.
  • I volunteer a lot of my time.
  • I am sharing my knowledge with youth.
  • I think I am pretty good at admitting when I am wrong.

Want To Do Better

  • Be more patient and tolerant.
  • Be a better Christian. (And a better Adam.)
  • Less time on my phone.
  • Be more present. (Because the present is a present.)
  • Follow through on all the things I say I will do.
  • Get better at giving gifts.
  • I want to drop below my snoring weight. (I’m about 5 pounds over my snore-free weight now.)
  • Get in better shape (But I still want to be human-shaped.)
  • Think bigger.
  • Create a better system for giving to charities and other worthy causes.

Things I have done.

  • Started a business (The Weaponry LLC. This was on my Life List when I turned 40.)
  • Wrote a book (What Does Your Fortune Cookie Say? This was on my Life List when I turned 40.)
  • Created a blog (AdamAlbrecht.Blog) (I tried starting a blog 6 times before it finally took.)
  • Created a newsletter (Adam’s Good Newsletter) (This was on my life list last year. Now there are 16 issues.)
  • Traveled extensively across America (49 Countries and Puerto Rico – no Hawaii by the time I turned 5-0.)
  • Traveled to 6 countries in Europe
  • Traveled to India and Argentina
  • Been married for 22+ years
  • Own a home
  • Paid off my cars
  • Coached Track & Field at a proficient level
  • Coached youth football
  • Helped kids improve their skills and confidence
  • Made people smile and laugh. (I don’t know if they were laughing with me or at me, but I’ll take it.)
  • Found a great wife (Yes, it is you, Dawn!)
  • Created and partially raised 3 pretty great kids
  • I have ridden a snowmobile 113 mph
  • I have bounced back from failure. (And I am still bouncing.)
  • I have volunteered for hard jobs when I knew I was the best person for the job
  • Donated blood regularly (Which I had never done until COVID. This was on my list of things I regretted never having done when I turned 40. Now I give regularly, which is proof that this evaluation helps. And that I have blood.)

Things I haven’t done yet that I really want to do.

  • Write more books.
  • Give a commencement address.
  • Travel to East Asia.
  • Travel to Africa (And bless the rains, like Toto.)
  • Travel to Australia & New Zealand.
  • Travel to Italy and Norway.
  • Rim-to-rim hike of the Grand Canyon. (While drinking Brim)
  • Walk a marathon.
  • Attend a Super Bowl, The Grammys and The Oscars.
  • Become proficient at an instrument. (Preferably a musical instrument.)
  • Become reasonably fluent in another language.
  • Do everything I say I will do.
  • Own enough rental properties to support my retirement.
  • Hike to Havasu Falls.
  • Create a self-sustaining business that doesn’t need me anymore.
  • Go hunting. (Like Good Will)
  • Create my own highly successful brand.
  • Become embarrassingly rich.
  • Go skydiving (I’m waiting for that sweet spot when my dependents don’t depend on me anymore, but I’m still not wearing Depends.)

Key Takeaway

To create the life you want, give yourself an annual self-evaluation. Focus on the positive. Note your accomplishments and what is going well. Then consider areas of improvement, experiences, actions, and accomplishments that would be meaningful to you. Identify them. Prioritize them. And deadline them. It’s the best way to do more of the things you value in the year ahead.

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+For more of the best life lessons I have learned check out my book, What Does Your Fortune Cookie Say? from Ripples Media.

Embracing Vulnerability: My Sunday Lesson.

On Sunday at church, I sat unusually close to the front of the sanctuary. My wife Dawn and I started a walk n’ talk with Pastor Bill Knapp in the narthex, and ended up walking him down the aisle until we got to the altar. Since we didn’t qualify for the exclusive seating on the altar, we sat in the second pew. Or the second row, if you don’t use the word pew. To me, this is the real first row. Because who sits in the row without a pew rack in front of them? People with nothing to hide from God?

I noticed things from that ultra-close vantage point that I had never noticed before.

  • There were more people wearing jeans to church than I realized.
  • I saw people who walk to the altar for communion but didn’t kneel to partake, presumably because their kneelers no longer kneel.
  • I noticed how the choir files out to the choir-itorium up front, then circles to the back of the church to grab a little bread n’ wine. (Emphasis on the little.)
    • I discovered the patterns the distributors use to return to the beginning of their side of the altar after working across the altar to distribute the Jesus goodies.

The Children’s Sermon

But I also witnessed something interesting during the children’s sermon. About 20% of the way through the service, our pastor invited the wee folk to come up to the altar for the children’s sermon.

Within seconds, I saw a young boy dash down the aisle like an eager bride on her wedding day. The boy sprinted to the altar, jumped the 2 steps to the main stage, and hit a hook slide across the wooden floor to a spot at the dead center. And just a foot in front of Pastor Bill. It was such an amazingly enthusiastic Dukes of Hazard way to show up for the word of the Lord that I couldn’t help but admire the young boy’s enthusiasm and aggressiveness.

After all the other kids filed up to the altar and took their seats crisscross applesauce-style, I saw another very young boy slowly approach the altar. This boy looked very timid, and unsure. He squeezed his father’s hand. And as he passed just in front of me, I heard him whisper to his dad, ‘Stay with me, ok?’ I then watched the loving father sit on the edge of the altar, with his arm around his son, so that the boy felt comforted in this scary, vulnerable and foreign situation.

After witnessing both boys approaching the same children’s sermon in the same church with such drastically different styles, I couldn’t help but consider which of these boys I identified with.

The answer came to me quickly and obviously:

Both.

While I love the eager, enthusiastic approach of Hook Slide Sven, and often employ a similarly energetic entrance, there are times when I feel like Timid Teddy.

When I was young, I felt that way a lot in specific new and confusing situations. Over the years, the balance has shifted dramatically. My moments of timidity today are few and far between. But they still happen. I don’t look meek. But I feel like I have no idea what I am walking into. But like Timid Teddy, I go anyway.

It’s important to recognize the value of experience. Anything you do can be scary and intimidating the first time. But do it anyway. Because everything you do is easier the second time. I see Hook Slide Sven at church all the time. He’s altared countless times for the children’s sermon and to sing in the children’s choir. He’s very comfortable in that environment. Which makes it easy for him to show up as his authentic hook-sliding self.

Timid Teddy was trying. Good for him. And good for you when you try something new, go somewhere new, eat something new or wear something new and bedazzled. It’s ok to show up feeling uncomfortable. That’s how you grow, learn, expand your world, and develop life skills and confidence. And once you are confident in a situation, help bring others along.

Key Takeaway

Sometimes you will feel confident, energetic and aggressive going into situations. That’s great. That is you at your best. Embrace and enjoy when you feel like that. It comes with experience. But know that it is ok to feel unsure, unprepared, apprehensive and cautious. The world does a good job of making us feel like that when we are out of our element and out of our comfort zone. When you feel unsure, but go, do, try, ask, join or partake anyway, you are growing. And that is just as valuable. Because when you do, you gain comfort and confidence. And you will soon be sliding into the same situation like Bo Duke, Rickey Henderson, or the boy at my church.

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+For more of the best life lessons I have learned check out my book, What Does Your Fortune Cookie Say? from Ripples Media.

To become a great problem solver, create backup plans for your backup plans.

I love meeting new people. And I love helping people solve problems. I got to do both of those things early one morning in 2016, and I still think about the story often.

The Story

I arrived at Hartsfield Jackson International airport in Atlanta just before 6:30am for a flight to New York City. I was flying to meet with Rachael Ray on the set of her TV show. I was neither a guest nor an audience member on her show. We were meeting between tapings so that I could present scripts for some new commercials we were going to film together. But as I stepped out of my car in the airport parking garage a panicked woman approached me saying, 

“I’m so sorry to bother you. But I just locked myself out of my car. My phone, purse, laptop and suitcase are all locked inside. I don’t know what to do.”

Talk about an exciting start to your day! The woman’s name was Kelly Harbin. She said she was flying to St. Louis on an 8:00 am flight. So we started going through our options. And yes, I said OUR options. Because as a professional problem solver, when someone brings me a problem, it becomes my problem too. Except for maybe hair loss. With hair loss, you’re on your own.

This was the scene that early morning at ATL when Kelly and I went into super solver mode.

So, like a couple of resourceful first-world problem solvers, we sprang into action! I pulled out my trusty smartphone, and we called the airport to see if they had an unlocking service. They didn’t. Boo. But they did offer us the phone number of a locksmith partner who may be able to help. Yay! 

So we called the locksmith. And yes, they could send someone to help. Yay! But not until  9:00am. Boo.

So we looked at other options. 

Me: Do you have a AAA membership?

Kelly: No.

Me: Do you have emergency services through your car manufacturer?

Kelly: No.

Me: Hmmm. Do you have any sevens?

Kelly: No. Go Fish.

Me: What time is your meeting in St. Louis?

Kelly: 11:00 am.

Me: So a later flight won’t work?

Kelly: No. And my company is counting on me to be there. We have built a technology product for this client and they are refusing to close the deal because they don’t understand it. I need to walk them through how the product works and solves their problem, or the multi-million dollar deal will fall apart! (Dun-Dun-Dun!)

Me: Do you have your driver’s license? 

Kelly: No.

Me: Why don’t we go see how we can get you through security without ID. (Heck, I got into bars in college all the time without an ID. How hard could it be?)

Kelly: (reluctantly) Let me check my car one more time just to make sure I’m not losing my mind.

At this point she walked back to her Ford Edge for another check. And I began searching on my phone for a Ford dealership that may be able to help.

A moment later she returned, slumped her shoulders and said, “You should go and catch your flight. And you can tell everyone on Facebook and Twitter that you met the dumbest woman in America. Because I have a Ford Edge. And the Edge has a keypad on the driver door.”

Me: Do you know the code?

Kelly: Yes.

Me: So you’re all set! 

 Kelly Yes!

At this point Kelly and I, strangers only moments ago, hugged, laughed and cheered on the top of the parking deck at the airport in the pre-dawn darkness. We celebrated our victory like we had just won the Showcase Showdown on The Price Is Right.


I made a new friend before 6:45am. Kelly made her flight. I got a test run on a valuable problem solving scenario. The Ford Edge got serious credit for a great problem-solving, flight-catching and potentially deal-saving feature. And as Kelly said, I got to tell all of my friends on Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn about her morning. Kelly made the meeting! She closed that deal. And she no longer closes her car door until she has her key in hand.

Key Takeaway

Life presents an all-you-can-eat buffet of problems. The key is to become good at solving them. This means coming up with multiple ways to address the problem you face. The more solutions you consider, the more likely you will arrive at a great solve. And chances are, you’re problem isn’t as bad as you first thought it was. Just ask Kelly.

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+For more of the best life lessons I have learned check out my book, What Does Your Fortune Cookie Say? from Ripples Media.

100 Things I Freaking Love!

Happy Valentine’s Day! Lately, I have been thinking a lot about the method of modern love. Because love is the most powerful, valuable and positive emotion in our treasure chest. I have had daily reminders of how short life really is. (And not just for Kevin Hart.) So you need to make the most of your time on Earth. Spend as much time as you can doing the things you love, in places you love, with people you love. Like Doc, Isaac, Gopher, Julie and Captain Stubing.

To take stock of the things I love, I have created this list. I encourage you to take an hour to write down 100 things you love, too. Not only will it force you to think about your favorite people, places, and things, but it will also help serve as a map to live a life you love.

I did this exercise a few years ago. You can see my 2021 list here. I didn’t look at it before writing this list. So it will be interesting to see what did and didn’t make both lists.

Here’s what I came up with in 2025. There are many more things that could be on this list. Because there is so much to love in life. Never forget that.

Things I love in 2025, In A Particular Order.

  1. My wife Dawn
  2. My kids Ava, Johann and Magnus
  3. My parents, Robert and Jill Albrecht
  4. My sisters Heather, Alison and Donielle (that’s not a typo). And I love our crazy birthday story!
  5. Waking up before my alarm
  6. Creative ideas
  7. Putting a smile on my face when I first wake up.
  8. Making grumpy people smile.
  9. Helping my clients grow their businesses
  10. Reading graduate level books
  11. Skiing with my son Magnus
  12. Listening to my son Johann play piano or saxophone
  13. My home weight room. I can blast my own music and yell. It has a great vibe.
  14. Running my Ariens snowblower through a fresh snowfall. This line has been brought to you by Ariens.
  15. The taste of maple sap form a galvanized bucket. (Real Vermont Boy Stuff.)
  16. Mountain Biking
  17. Pizza
  18. Compound interest
  19. Hummingbirds
  20. Northern lights
  21. Boogie Boarding
  22. Printing photos from my adventures and hanging them on my wall as a reminder to really live
  23. Writing newsletters, blog posts, and books. Oh My!
  24. Seeing my people in real life
  25. Making a new friend on an airplane
  26. G-Shock Watches
  27. American Giant Hoodies
  28. My Topo Design Mountain pants (they don’t make them anymore.)
  29. My hiking boots
  30. Moonlight cross country skiing with my Dad in Vermont
  31. A Paris dinner cruise
  32. Floating down the Aare River in Bern, Switzerland
  33. The crazy traffic in Bangalore, India
  34. Bryce Canyon
  35. The Narrows at Zion National Park
  36. Seeing Bears in the Wild (when I’m not holding a salmon)
  37. Laughing until I cry
  38. My Jeep Rubicon
  39. The Weaponry
  40. The color red.
  41. Trucker hats
  42. My Halo pizza oven
  43. Making minds sparkle
  44. Giving keynote speeches
  45. Family reunions
  46. Guys trips
  47. My home theater
  48. Frozen bananas
  49. Getting upgraded to first class on Delta flights
  50. The Salt Lake City Airport
  51. Coaching my daughter Ava in track and field
  52. Coaching my son Magnus in football
  53. Buffalo (the animals and the wings)
  54. When things go wrong and you get a good story out of it
  55. A good comeback, in sports and in life
  56. Chocolate milk
  57. My wedding day (But once was enough.)
  58. My Grandparents
  59. My Aunts and Uncles
  60. Cousins (The relatives. Not the subs.)
  61. Black olives
  62. Grilled Cheese sandwiches
  63. Music Concerts
  64. Snowmobiling
  65. Chicago
  66. Hilton Head Island
  67. A great photo I was lucky enough to catch
  68. My Atlanta friends
  69. My friends from home in the Upper Valley
  70. Turks and Caicos
  71. Ben & Jerry’s New York Super Fudge Chunk
  72. Vermont
  73. Ginger Beer
  74. Breakfast burritos
  75. Sunrises and Sunsets
  76. Great Comedians
  77. Great Churros
  78. Long road trips
  79. Baseball and football cards from the 1980s
  80. My Gerber tool
  81. Throwing the discus
  82. My Mack Weldon Atlas Bag
  83. The Republic of Tea Ginger Peach,
  84. Darn Tough Socks
  85. Atomic Habits by James Clear
  86. Connecting dots
  87. Simon Pearce glass
  88. Being totally present
  89. Roller Coasters
  90. The Last Dance documentary series
  91. Yahtzee (especially when I get Yahtzee twice in one game)
  92. The museum of memories I am building in my mind
  93. My John Deere lawn tractor.
  94. Mt. Rainier
  95. Sweet Tea
  96. A New York Strip (The steak. Don’t be pervy.)
  97. Fishing in the rain
  98. Maui Jim Sun glasses
  99. Luftballoons
  100. Someone else having hiccups
  101. Dalmatians

Key Takeaway

Fill your life with the things you love. The people, places, activities, feelings, foods, and drinks you love will lead you to a life you love. And life is too short to fill with anything else.

*If you know someone who could benefit from this message, please share it with them.

+For more of the best life lessons I have learned check out my book, What Does Your Fortune Cookie Say? from Ripples Media.

It’s time for your next step to a great 2025.

One great day is just one great day.

But if you can string together 4 to 7 great days you have a great week.

And if you can string together 4 or 5 great weeks you have a great month.

And if you string together 12 great months you have a great year.

And if you string together great year after great year, you create a great life.

And if you string together 6 great strings, you might have a guitar. Or an afghan.

Creating A Great 2025

I am trying to make 2025 my best year ever. I call it Project 2025. (Not to be confused with any other Project 2025s you may have heard about lately.) I hope you are doing the same. And if you haven’t been thinking about creating your own great 2025, now is the time to start. Because no one can make it happen but you. (With a strong assist from God, the world’s all-time assist leader.)

As we wrapped up the first 12th of the year, I spent Friday evening evaluating my January. Here are the bullet points in my self-report:

Adam’s January 2025

  • I went skiing 4 times. (That’s an average of once per week and twice the number of times I have skied between 1990 and 2024.)
  • I read 3 books. (More to come on this. But they were all great. And none of them involved coloring.)
  • I published 10 new blog posts.
  • I published 2 new editions of Adam’s Good Newsletter. (Please sign up if you like positive stuff.)
  • I met major milestones on a special writing project I have been working on. (I assume much of the world calls them kilometerstones.)
  • I worked out 16 times (despite being sick for a week with one of those little Gremlins Americans circulated in January. Which made me appreciate my good health even more.)
  • I booked 3 new speaking engagements. (Does that mean I now have 3 new speaking fiances?)
  • I bought a new set of Rogue dumbbells from 5 to 50 pounds and an additional set of 45-pound Rogue bumper plates. Then, I put them all to good use in my home gym. (I also drove from Milwaukee to Columbus to pick them up and save $300 in shipping costs. Plus, I got to see that huge candle in Indiana. #IYKYK)
  • The Weaponry conducted 2 transformative strategy workshops for new brands.
  • My great team added some cool new clients and we have several more about to come aboard, like the opening to The Love Boat.
  • I visited 5 states. And discovered that the new Salt Lake City airport is amazing. Tom Hanks should have been stuck in that terminal.
  • I visited my great friends Amy and Todd Urowsky at their beautiful home in Park City, Utah, and then skied at Brighton.
  • I spent time with my parents Bob and Jill Albrecht, in Lafayette, Indiana. Having parents is the best. Don’t take it for granted.
  • I planned and booked a spring break trip to Arizona. I’d love to hear your favorite things in Scottsdale and Sedona. (I already know about the tall cans of tea.)
  • I spent a lot of quality time with my wife Dawn, and sons Johann and Magnus. Plus, my daughter Ava was home from college for 3 weeks in January. Which was wonderful. Like George Bailey’s life.
  • I added several great new people to my Great People collection. Great people are the most valuable things you can collect.

I share this list to encourage you to create your own. You have to look back at your wins, both large and small, to recognize the great things in your life. The successes, the adventures, the experiences, the relationships, the learnings, the growth, and the commitments kept. By reflecting on them, you both tally your wins, and you get to enjoy them all again.

Let’s Go February!

Now, it’s time for us all to create a great February. I am excited about it. I hope you are, too. It all starts simply by having a great day today, whatever that looks like to you. And then doing it again tomorrow.

Key Takeaway

A great life, a great marriage, and a great career are built one day at a time. Start by knowing what great means to you. Then, live into that every day. String together great days. They create great weeks, months and years. You have to make it happen. And it is never too late to start.

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+For more of the best life lessons I have learned check out my book, What Does Your Fortune Cookie Say? from Ripples Media.

Recognizing and Avoiding the Slow No.

You should always be aware of the slow no.

It’s the worst of the nos.

Worse than infernos, volcanoes and no-it-alls.

The slow no is the decision that is always going to be no. No matter how much support there is for a yes.

Decision makers will let you explore, research, propose, pile up work towards, and spend a lot of time diddling on things that are always going to finish with a no.

It’s a waste of time, energy, enthusiasm and hope. Like that romantic interest that you know is way out of your league, but they are really nice to you, and you start thinking there is a chance, when there is really no chance there is a chance.

What’s the best way to deal with the slow no?

Cut to the chase.

Ask if this is likely to end in a slow no.

Ask the decision-makers, if all the evidence seems to support a yes, will it still be a no because of politics, budget, bias, distance, favored-competitors, or other factors out of your control.

The slow no is likely to occur when:

  • You wonder why the decision maker hasn’t made a decision like this before
  • The cost seems out of line with the budget
  • It all seems too good to be true (like the whole Lance Armstrong thing)
  • The action would be out of character for the decision maker
  • You smell political factors or nepotism at play
  • They say you are facing 1 in a million odds, and you think they are saying there’s a chance
  • The decision maker puts the word pro in procrastination

The best thing you can do is hit fast forward and turn that slow no into a fast no. Or a know-now no.

You can also openly rescind your proposal or request.

When your change of heart is met with a shrug, you know it was a slow no.

That puts time back into your account. So you can use it more productively on something else. Or someone else.

Key Takeaway

Don’t lose time on a slow no. Sniff them out. Fast forward them to the final answer. And use your time on something more valuable.

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The 2 Key Factors That Determine Success in Sports and Life.

I have spent a lot of time coaching and participating in sports. Both team sports and individual sports. My teams have won and lost. The individual athletes I have coached have both dominated and been dominated. Along the way, I have carefully analyzed what creates wins and losses. And I have discovered that there are 2 key factors that determine the outcomes of all sporting events. And despite what Nike and Mars Blackmon would like you to believe, it is not da shoes.

The key 2 factors that determine the outcomes of all sporting events are effort and errors.

Effort

In sporting competitions, the effort exerted by a team or individual competitor is stacked directly against the effort exerted by the other team or individual competitor.

The more effort you exert, the more likely you are to win. This is true in contact sports, races of all types, gymnastics, putting the shot, dodgeball, and Red Rover. (Where you always ask your opponent to send that low-effort kid over.)

However, effort is not the only factor at play. (See what I did there?)

Errors

The other key element that impacts every sporting event outcome is errors.

There is an ideal way to perform every move in sports, from the discus throw to the jump shot to the form tackle to the Triple Lindy. Any deviation from that technique, form, move or execution is an error. The more errors you commit, the less likely you are to win. Like Bruce Hornsby said, that’s just the way it is,

Sometimes, errors result from a lack of focus and are self-created. Other times, your errors are forced by your opponent. In fact, it is your job as a competitor to force errors in your competitors. You do this either through physical effort or through mental or psychological stress applied through pressure, confusion, conditions, or crowd noise. (Although crowd noise is illegal in tennis and golf.)

However, you and your opponent aren’t the only ones committing errors. There are also errors made by officials, judges, referees, umpires, scoreboard operators, timekeepers, and eager Cubs fans in left field excited to catch a foul ball. Their errors have the potential to completely change the outcome of a competition. Those are simply the facts of life, like Tootie, Blair, Jo and Mrs. G.

As a competitor, there are two things you can do to impact the outcome of a sporting event.

  1. Maximize your own effort.
  2. Minimize your own errors.

The rest is beyond your control.

Beyond Sports

The impact of effort and errors doesn’t just apply to sports. The same key factors influence such varied fields as business, relationships, and academic success. They are the key ingredients in gardening, investing, music performance, and even picking up hotties at a nightclub. So pay close attention to both your successes and failures. You’ll find these two critical variables play a major role in each.

Key Takeaway

Success in sports is simply a result of maximizing effort and minimizing errors. It is why you train and improve your strength and stamina. It is why you practice and drill over and over and over again. But these same influences on sports also determine the outcomes in most areas of life. From marriage to sales to self-confidence. Which is why sports are so valuable. They teach you how to be successful in all areas of life. And that’s the great win for us all.

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The Lesson of My Netflix Investment Mistake

I have been investing in the stock market since my first year out of college. I knew that it was important to not just work for money but to make money work for you. You can read Robert Kiyosaki’s works for more pithy moneyisms like that.

As an investor I have had plenty of successes. I have had plenty of failures. Kinda like a typical country song. But I have become much better at evaluating stocks and recognizing great buying opportunities over time.

Today, when I review my investments, there is one stock that stands out and makes me cringe every time.

It is Netflix. (NFLX on your radio dial.)

It is the only stock I own that I shake my head at when I review the details of my purchase. I am always left wondering, what the heck was I thinking? I can practically hear Nancy Kerrigan screaming, “Why? Why? Why?” when I check my E-trade account.

The Details:

I bought Netflix in 2022 for $184.25 per share.

As of this publishing Netflix is selling for $848.26 per share.

Today, the return on my investment stands at 360%.

I have almost never been as right about buying a stock as I was about buying Netflix when I did.

So what’s the problem?

I only bought 5 shares.

Not Ten. Not Fifty. Not 500 million.

Five.

Heck, I have twice as many fingers as I have Netflix shares.

The Kicking of Myself

I knew Netflix was a great company.

I knew the stock was at a great price after falling far from its recent highs.

This was the classic dip you always look for to buy stocks in blue chip companies.

It was like investing in Martha Stewart as she headed off to summer prison camp. She was a good bet in a down time. And an amazing bet with a potential prison-cred reboot with Snoop Dogg.

I knew that all signs pointed to Netflix being a great investment at a great time to buy.

Yet I didn’t go all in.

I barely went in at all. Not even 4 figures.

I invested just $921.25

Today that is $4,241.20.

But imagine for yourself what would happen if there was another zero behind that investment. Or two. Or a hundred billion zeros… (Insert Dr. Evil Laugh.) Consider what those scaled investments would have translated to today.

Obviously, I am grateful that I have a very handsome (almost Zoolander-like) return on my investment.

But I am disappointed with the strength of my conviction. That I didn’t bet bigger when all the signs said Go!

Key Takeaway

When you have done your homework, and you know you are right, you need to go all in. Push all your chips into the center of the table. It’s true for investments, entrepreneurship, and relationships. It’s true of all the important commitments and bets you will ever make on yourself.

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A good sign of a good time.

On Saturday, January 4th, I attended a dinner party at a restaurant in downtown Milwaukee.

I had a really good time with some really good friends.

I know I had a really good time because, around midnight, the valet sought me out in the private room I was in in the back of the restaurant to hand me my keys. I was standing in a circle of the last of the party-goers who weren’t even done with the night. Like John Cougar said before he got mellencamped.

Apparently, I had stayed at the party so long that the valet was turning into a parking pumpkin, and wanted to go home. So he had parked my car just outside the front door, found me in the restaurant, handed me the keys and walked away. Not only was he not looking for a tip, he didn’t even charge me for the valet parking. Which meant that I had enjoyed myself so much that I actually saved money in the process.

Reflection

It can be hard to know whether or not you are being generally successful in life. Not everything is easily scored. But in my scorebook, if the valet comes to find you at a party because he wants to go home and play Grand Theft Auto, and you still want to stay and hangout with your wife and your 4 other friends who aren’t ready to leave, it is a good sign, that at least for the night, you are winning at life. (Also according to my scorebook, if those friends will answer to Pablo or Bert, even though those are not their real names, you score bonus points.)

Key Takeaway

To live a great life, spend more time with people you want to stay up late with. Go to events you don’t want to leave. We have a finite amount of time on this planet. Make it count.

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